Often we are asked to listen and we feel compelled to give advice or talk about our own problems. My best friend, daughter, confidant sent me the following poem one day when she was in a psychology class for nursing. The instructor made copies for each student to have and of course she knew I would love it or, perhaps she was trying to tell me something. I am sharing because it had a profound impact on how I listen.
“When I ask you to listen to me and you start giving me advice, you have not done what I have asked. When I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me why I shouldn’t feel this way, you are trampling on my feelings.
When I ask you to listen to me and you feel you have to do something to solve my problem, you