The kindness of strangers when directed towards me is always amazing, even though I do practice kindnesses often.
About a half hour into thinking about the above, while I was sitting in a restaurant at the bar, finishing my wine after dinner, a woman came in and sat in the seat to the left of me and handed the woman further to the left a bouquet of flowers. The woman said at first, “Oh, why did you do that? You shouldn’t have,” and finally said, "Thank you." The flower-giver and I started talking and she immediately shared news about all the loss in her life—dog (most recently), three husbands (yes, three), mother, etc., etc., in 11 years. And now she finds any opportunity to give—mostly a lot of flowers! The day before in the same restaurant—her local place—she gave two other women flowers who were celebrating a birthday and Mother’s Day. For her, she feels better by giving something to others to make them feel good with something beautiful.
I recently remembered a sweet act of kindness: when I was in San Francisco once, we were meeting a friend—new person/friend to me—at a restaurant. Neil Young was seated at a long table and when he got up to leave, I mentioned to this new friend, “There’s Neil Young, I know all of his songs!” (of Crosby, Stills, Nash & Young). David took my hand, walked me outside to where Neil Young was about to get into his light-colored vintage convertible. I mumbled how I know all of his songs and he said thank you and got into his car. David is this kind of fellow: always taking the opportunity to make someone feel good.
Just give, give, give! And don’t worry about how it will be received or perceived. We do not know what someone is going through or what someone has been through. It is great when we can feel a vibe or something from someone and react to it to help them. Another recent experience: I was on a plane for a long flight with a window seat. Just arrived. Sat down. Someone was in the aisle seat. I was a little uneasy. She turned to me and asked if I was alright. Whatever I put out, she felt it. I told her I was a little uneasy sitting in the window seat and she said, let’s switch, no problem. She tuned in to me, felt something and offered some kindness. We didn’t exchange a lot of words after that—just a silent understanding.
People are kind and give for different reasons. I think and feel that when we give, it is also a gift to ourselves. I feel really great when I do something for someone or give something that has meaning to someone else. Practice random acts of kindness—they are win-wins!
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