Family is one thing. Friends are another. Knowing that there are people out there who are there for you and to whom you can complain about things and with whom you can just sit and be silent and who don’t judge, let you have your space and who accept you as you, is such a comfort.
Take a minute and think about these special people in your life - you may not think they are there but think again. Even if it is someone not in your daily life and when you talk, the comfort is there. These encounters with good friends are the simple pleasures that help to keep our bodies, minds and hearts balanced.
It is not at all about gifts for occasions and keeping up with the births, marriages and deaths, it is about comfort and ease getting through the day-to-day. And the friends who understand us are the gifts. The value in a true friend is more than anyone can ever spend on a gift.
Take a moment to recognize and acknowledge your good friends and send them nourishing intentions. I often say at the end of yoga class to take a deep breath in for the body to be healthy and whole, for the mind to be clear and serve you well, for the heart to be loving and compassionate. These, to me, are the foundation of a balanced self. Perhaps your intention for each of your true friends could be this one.
Being a good friend to yourself opens the path to being a good friend to another.
“...Learn to be a good friend to yourself, journeying in that place in your soul where there is love, warmth and feeling. May this change you. May it transfigure what is negative, distant, or cold within your heart. May you be brought into real passion, kindness and belonging.” (A Book of Blessings, John O’Donohue)
Being a good friend is to be there and present in the positive state mentioned above in the quote by John O’Donohue. Passion, compassion, kindness, caring, acceptance - these are all part of the give-and-take in friendships. And honesty. I really appreciate when a friend can take the step to be honest about something I may not want to hear. When I see or feel something in my gut, I think about how I would bring it to my friend’s attention. I may be wrong, but it is my duty as a friend to point out something that could be harmful or that may not be serving that person.
Lightness and a sense of “freeing” can bring joy to a friendship, which is the icing on the cake. Everything doesn’t have to always be so serious and thoughtful between friends and in your own self friend. Lighten up, enjoy and acknowledge the solace in good friends.
May you be happy. May you be free. May you be grateful. May you let go of things that do not serve you. May you have inner peace.BLOG COMMENTS POWERED BY DISQUS