A friend of mine has had a very, very full year—illness in the family, complications with that illness, holiday hosting, accidents, family marriage proposals, wedding planning and all that goes along with that. It has been one emotional thing after another. I can’t imagine how she was keeping it all going. And she always has a smile, a kind word and is interested in how I am doing. I guess she was maybe reacting to something rather strongly one day, when her daughter said to her, “Is it a crisis or is it an inconvenience?” This is a very powerful sentence. And her daughter is wise beyond her age!
There are degrees of gravity to any situation and assessing it at the time of occurrence could entirely change our wellbeing. If everything not-so-joyous happens is a crisis, then we get into that “fight or flight mode” and our sympathetic nervous systems rein and don’t rebound to normal. That means that digestion could be off, sleep could be off, reproductive system could be off—all of the systems in the body that may not be necessary when we have to fight off a tiger. But when the tiger is gone, the body’s nervous system should rebalance and the physical body systems get back into check. If we think and feel that everyday mishaps and happenings are crises, then the body (physical, mental, emotional), never gets back to normal, compromising our health. And chances are we are not so present and kind to the people around us.
So the next time something arises that gets to your core—and everything is subjective, one person’s reaction to the exact same occurrence can be completely different—maybe try to step back, assess it and ask that question: is this just an inconvenience right now? How can I navigate towards correcting or resolving it? On the other hand, if it is evident that a crisis is arising, there are two tools that come to our aid. One is our breath, and the other is tuning in to the power within. We each can develop our own coping mechanisms. The breath is simply consciously focusing on the inhalations and exhalations, making them longer, deeper and fuller.
I visualize my power within coming from my middle body—the “chakra”—energy center “manipura”—between the navel and solar plexus. (This awareness is rooted in the yoga tradition. The solar plexus is the location of a bundle of nerves in the abdomen). This energy center relates to the digestive system and the adrenal glands which control some functions very important to our overall health. Focusing on this area in the body, visualizing personal power and strength, and vocalizing or repeating to yourself some very positive affirmations can help to get through crises.
My lesson from my friend’s daughter: take the time to assess what comes up and think, feel, say and do accordingly.
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