I just witnessed a terrible exchange between an adult and a teenager. I heard yelling on the part of the adult— not the exact words, but I did hear the response from the teenager: cursing out the adult, very, very harsh, disgusting things as he walked away and up the dune. After some contemplation, I felt sorry for the teenager. Perhaps all of what is going on is getting to him and he lashed out. I’m sure there is a lot more to it but what is in that teenager that made him talk that way—what feelings are inside of him? I referred back to a column of mine from a little less than two years ago on “Kindness.”
I try to imagine how I would have to feel inside to utter such things. . . and it goes back to the inner self. What we think, say and do in relation to ourselves and others becomes a part of our inner selves: the source of our being and the divineness that connects us to every living thing.
“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.” (Lao Tzu, philosopher and prophet of ancient China) We can have control over how we think, what we say and how we act. We can think, speak and act negatively/meanly or we can think, speak and act positively/kindly. If the teenagers witness people acting in kindness, that will be their example.
The first kindness is to oneself. Why are we sometimes so hard on ourselves? There really is no reason for it. Approach your thoughts and feelings with a softness, a kindness, and you will begin to feel less agitated and be more at ease.
The second kindness is to all living beings. Once there is that feeling of ease within you, there is no other way than to be kind, not only doing “acts of kindness” but being kind. Rather than reacting abruptly to something that comes up causing the other person to be on guard and in defensive mode, think first about trying to work it out in a kind way.
The inner feelings of kindness that radiate outward create a harmony around each of us. Think of it as an energy field. That ease has to come from within and during this time we really need to acknowledge and deal with our emotions, so we don’t display unkind behavior and create some “ugly” energy.
It’s all how we look at it. We seem to accomplish what we deem important on a daily basis, so if we deem important to refresh every day so that we can feel peace, then, we will radiate kindness. You can be certain that everyone will benefit. Center in, think positive, kind thoughts. Say positive, kind words. Do positive, kind deeds. And share all of that with the younger people also helping them to deal with what is coming up for them.
“Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness.
Kindness in giving creates love.” (Lao Tzu)
May you be happy. May you be free. May you be grateful. May you be compassionate. May you let go of things that do not serve you. May you have inner peace.
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