Just 10 days after local Gavriella Navarez launched Facebook page, “Bad Moms of Rockaway,” she was featured in New York Post article (March 9, 2019), “Bad Moms’ let loose in raunchy Facebook groups.” Though Navarez was the cover mom for the article’s photo, the storyline mainly focused on titillating and raunchy Facebook comments from “Bad Moms” groups in Long Island and New Jersey, that reference their sex lives as a parent and other hot topics. Many of the groups were inspired by the 2016 movie, “Bad Moms.” However, according to Navarez, though she appreciates the exposure and thinks some of the raunchy moms in other groups are hilarious, her intentions for Rockaway’s ‘bad’ group are good. “I started this group, because as wife and mom of two boys, I wanted to create a platform where local moms feel supported throughout the mayhem of our daily lives. Though we doubt ourselves and feel imperfect, we are good moms at heart, and sometimes just need an avenue to share, vent, learn and of course laugh with each other,” Navarez said.
The 28-year-old mother grew up in Far Rockaway and moved to Rockaway Park with her husband, Danny, in 2015. She has two boys, seven-year-old Gavin and two-year-old Ethan. Navarez and her husband actually tied the knot at Whit’s End, when the popular foodie establishment was located in Riis Park.
The working mom frankly stated, “My kids know how to drive me insane!” While The Rockaway Times was speaking with Navarez, Ethan was in his crib singing, “Mommy, mommy where are you?” Navarez laughed, “You see what I mean, but my two boys are my world, and every day I earnestly try to be a better mom, and berate myself when I lose my patience or temper.”
Navarez said for years, she tried other Facebook mom support groups with the sole mission to learn how other parents balanced motherhood— however she felt alienated.
“I’ve always had issues with other mom groups. There was always a problem with posting questions and concerns you have about your children and balancing our daily lives. I feel that in a mom group, there should be a degree of compassion and understanding that we could be completely open and share our struggles and concerns. In previous groups I joined, I felt like there was always the grammar police and the eating police. For example, if I said, ‘I fed my son a peanut butter sandwich for dinner because he refused to eat anything else,’ I would get a response like, ‘Oh my goodness! How could your child just eat peanut butter sandwiches for dinner? How horrible!’
“These kind of comments irked me because every mom knows what raising a child is really about. Every mom knows that your children don’t always listen to everything you say or ask them to do. Your children decide they want to do things their way. I know as mommies, we have to put our foot down and demand that they obey, but it’s not always that easy. Motherhood is hard. It’s not an easy job at all,” Navarez said.
The determined mom also spoke about succumbing to societal pressures to be the perfect mother.
“You have these women who always look perfect, act perfect, and say they give their children gluten-free finger sandwiches, or crow, ‘My child doesn’t drink cow’s milk, he only drinks soy milk.’ There’s so much to mommyhood, and it’s definitely not about being perfect, which is why sometimes it’s hard to find people you can relate with.
“Then you have these moms who post these Facebook photos of themselves with their eyelashes perfectly curled, their hair and nails perfectly done and their children perfectly dressed. That’s not my reality, I don’t know any mom like that!” Navarez exclaimed.
On top of everything, Navarez said she is going through a horrific five-year custody battle with her ex for her older son. “Everything I’ve done, fought, cried for my Gavin has been criticized. So when I get the opportunity to vent and share with a mom going through a similar ordeal, it means so much,” she said.
Navarez said recently, after a long day—getting the children out the door for school, getting herself dressed for work, coming home, cooking and serving dinner, giving her children their baths, doing the laundry and still cleaning up—ready to drop from exhaustion, her son, Galvin, asked her for a snack.
“I just gave him a look, like, ‘Seriously!’ His response, ‘A mother’s job is never done.’ I looked at him and said, ‘You couldn’t be more right.’ And to be honest he was so helpful that day, and I felt guilty for not being able to stretch myself even more, and of course, I gave him his snack,” Navarez said.
According to Navarez, there’s no such thing as the perfect parent or perfect mom. “This is expressly why I created this Facebook page. As women, we need to support each other. All we know is that at the end of the day, our job as mom is to raise a happy, healthy child who will mature into a self-sufficient, independent adult. That is my goal. If I reach that, then I know I did a good job as a mom, and this is something I know all mothers want,” she said.
As of press time, “Bad Moms of Rockaway” already has 85 members. According to Navarez, only moms are allowed on the Facebook group, not dads. “I know great dads out there who are trying their best to be the best caregivers for their family, but us moms, we need our own outlet. We do share some funny anecdotes that only we can appreciate and laugh,” Navarez said.
The plucky mother said she hopes “Bad Moms of Rockaway” grows beyond Facebook.
“It would be fun to do a Bad Moms of Rockaway night out, where we can get other, drink some wine, bond and form long-lasting relationships. Other Bad Moms pages are calling me a copycat. That’s not the case. They do not understand the dynamic of Rockaway. We are a support group for motherhood—where we come together and give strength to all moms feeling overrun by their precious little angels,” Navarez said.BLOG COMMENTS POWERED BY DISQUS