Remembering Detective Anthony DiCarlo


 Rockaway will never forget NYPD Detective Anthony DiCarlo. On Friday, February 21, the community came together at a memorial Mass to honor DiCarlo on the first anniversary of his passing. DiCarlo died suddenly at the age of 51 of a heart attack last year, leaving behind his beloved wife of 19 years, Maria Lamicella DiCarlo, and his three daughters, Maria, Daniella and Ariana. DiCarlo was well-known throughout the Rockaways and Brooklyn, for his selfless service and dedication to the NYPD, soccer coaching skills, and his all-around good humor.

As well as being a dedicated father and soccer coach, DiCarlo was a dedicated member of the NYPD. In his early 30s, DiCarlo chose to give up a career in finance to serve as one of New York’s Finest. Because of his outstanding service devoted to the NYPD, DiCarlo was honored posthumously by the NYPD United Nations General Assembly Central Headquarters. They dedicated the name of their camp in DiCarlo’s memory, calling it, “Camp DiCarlo.” The Camp DiCarlo flag waved proudly between the U.S. and NYPD flags at the NYPD memorial held on September 20, 2019.

DiCarlo’s dedication to service extended beyond the NYPD. Following Hurricane Sandy, he dedicated his time to helping his neighbors by collecting and distributing goods as a volunteer at St. Francis de Sales’ makeshift relief station.

Since he passed, DiCarlo has also been recognized by the Hance Family Foundation, a cause DiCarlo was actively involved in. During his lifetime, DiCarlo was committed to honoring the memory of Jackie Hance’s daughters, Emma, age 8; Alyson, 7; and Katie, 5, who were killed in a wrong-way crash in 2009. The foundation recognized DiCarlo posthumously, for all of his past efforts helping the family since the tragedy.

After DiCarlo’s funeral last year, Congressman Pete King shared the following message, which truly sums up DiCarlo’s character. King said, “He was first class all the way—extremely intelligent, hardworking, and dedicated—A cop’s cop… Most of all, Anthony was a great family man, always talking glowingly about his wife, Maria, and their three daughters, whom he coached on their CYO, travel, and high school soccer teams.”

The focus of Friday’s Mass was DiCarlo’s legacy. On the altar, which was adorned with beautiful NYPD blue and white flowers, was officiate, Fr. Sean Suckiel, St. Francis de Sales' pastors, Rev. William F. Sweeney, and Rev. James Cunningham, and the NYPD Chaplain, Fr. Robert Romano. Fr. Sean’s homily discussed DiCarlo’s love for his wife and three girls. Attendance was high, as everyone remembered the many things DiCarlo loved, including soccer, as he was the SFDS and Fontbonne Hall Academy (FHA) coach; the Dallas Cowboys, as he was a die-hard fan; and his love of entertaining family and friends.

SFDS students, Lucy and Tess Kuhlman, were altar servers who were personally connected to the DiCarlo family, since the Kuhlman girls were all active participants in the SFDS CYO soccer program. Shannon Neiswenter and Kasey Jenkusky read on the altar, and Kaitlyn Potter and Mauve Murnan, all FHA soccer girls, brought up the gifts. All four of these girls had the pleasure of being coached by DiCarlo in his years of coaching the Bonnies. These girls were just a few of many from across Rockaway and Brooklyn, who have benefitted from DiCarlo’s knowledge of soccer, and his compassion and dedication as a coach.

Immediately following the Mass, SFDS hosted a reception for DiCarlo in the small hall. Here, the attendees had the opportunity to share stories and memories of the dedicated detective and his loving family. Close family friend and parent to one of DiCarlo’s soccer players, Clare Santiago, said, “We miss him with all our hearts! He was a great man, husband, father, and friend! Kelly (her daughter) was so lucky to have him in her life and is a better person because of him. I believe that the parents of all the others that he coached would agree.”

Detective Anthony DiCarlo’s legacy will continue to live on through his beloved wife, and three daughters, and all of those he impacted during his life.

By Marina Cregan