HELP! I need to stay away from negativity. I'll just say my family, as in my parents, have a very different political viewpoint than I do. It doesn't really matter the details. I am the black sheep of my family, and I keep getting more and more different. I refuse to talk to them about anything political. I have actually trained myself to be quiet around them. It’s not easy, and usually I overeat after I hang out with them. I'm worried about the planet, and everything. I'm not really sure what I'm asking, but I need help. I love my family so much, they don't poke at me specifically, but they talk politics all the time, and I feel like my overeating is out of control after I leave them. So not really sure what I should do about that, but how could I still see them, and not get so angry inside? Any tips or things to do? ARGH.
Dear Imploding Iris.
Sister! You are so genius for sharing, asking and writing here, and well done on working with yourself and not engaging if you are not ready or don’t feel good about it. It sounds like you love your family so much and you have not made their choices, but that doesn’t mean they are out of your life. Brava to you big time!
I've been studying the Jewish Priestess way and I read something today that feels like exactly what I can share with you here. It says women like to get revenge, but the Goddess seeks to heal. If you look at them and anyone else you disagree with, through the eyes of love and compassion, love will be how you see them. No matter what side a person takes, they are human and they desire peace of some kind. All of our systems are being challenged and it feels extra hard, and for you to not allow yourself to judge your family is quite profound.
The part of you that keeps quiet by choice is great, and instead of the energy going outward, it's imploding, causing you to struggle and overeat. I am also an emotional eater, and it ain’t easy. So, giving you the advice I give myself, which I follow with food, is to have amazing fruits and healthy options all ready and cut up, so I can grab it when I need it. I don't keep junk food at home, other than dates and chocolate covered almonds.
Also, I'm curious how much time your maximum limit is with your family before you begin to crumble inside? That is something good to notice. Are you good for short spurts? Or are you a long haul and then take a day off? This is something you will know. Learning your own boundaries, especially with family (when it's not easy and flowing), is a great tool. Because of what you've shared, it sounds like they care about you and they would not want you to be self- sabotaging or treating yourself badly.
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