Choice and Non-Resistance
If you have ever found yourself in a situation that suddenly seems wrong, you will know what I’m talking about here. It all comes back to being present, being aware, being open to checking “is this good in my life?” for big things, little things, life things and then creating a process to change a “no” answer to that question that may come up. All four: presence, awareness, inquiry, change. Seems so simple, yet we often don’t take the time to check in. More and more I do this. I think it is how I arrived to a place of peace, love and joy.
I haven’t had a manicure and a pedicure since early March 2020. It used to be something I “had” to do. I wouldn’t think about not getting them. I wouldn’t think about caring for my toe and finger nails myself. Then something happened. When our norm is no longer available, we can only adjust. I adjusted to doing it myself using as non-toxic materials as I can get. If I had used the above “four” to ask myself about manicures/pedicures even once, I would have told myself how I don’t like all the toxicity and how much do I really like sitting there? (This is not to say, by the way, that I would never have a manicure/pedicure again nor that I judge anyone now who does. This is my moment now.) I put into practice choosing change, rather than reacting in change when something happens. There is no choice then but to change. So better to analyze and change by choice.
This whole practice led me to an exploration, understanding and adaptation of non-resistance. Sometimes we cannot get past limitations doing something the same way every time. We just repeat. I became aware of this working into a yoga pose and thinking about how to release a specific part of the lower back area for someone I have the pleasure of guiding in yoga practices. I adapted this method of non-resistance and it has changed everything. Breathing in to the exact second moment, allowing the body to go just as far, then breathing to allowing the body to go deeper.
This also applies to our minds and heart space. For example, you’re thinking in a certain way over and over about a problem. No solution is arising. Thinking the same in a tight wound up way. So thinking about easing the constriction and omitting some of the words in the story and start to ease away from it. Little by little. With the breath. Easing off, and then maybe opening for a solution to arise. This has been my experience. Same with feelings. Being in a feeling and with it even if it is negative. Release into the feeling to figure out the cause of it.
“I want to be at peace with most everything in my life. I allow for flow to change.”
And by the way, happy Rockaway summer. It has been absolutely stupendous!
May you be happy. May you be free. May you be grateful. May you be compassionate. May you let go of things that do not serve you. May you have inner peace.
By Paulette Mancuso