As humans, we tend not to be very comfortable with empty space. We like knowing what comes next, having something to look forward to, and feeling that we are moving in a clear direction. When an opening appears in our lives, many of us instinctively look for a way to fill it.
Of course, not every empty space feels the same. Some bring relief and possibility, while others arrive through disappointment, loss, or a change we did not choose. There are spaces we welcome and others we would do almost anything to avoid. What they share is uncertainty, and uncertainty asks us to live without an immediate answer.
Our focus at Ocean Bliss this October is Samhara, the energy of dissolution and transformation. Samhara reminds us that when something falls away, we do not always need to rush toward whatever will replace it. Sometimes there is value in honoring the space that remains.
That can be difficult in a world that encourages us to keep moving. When a relationship ends, we may wonder when we will meet someone new. When plans change, we immediately begin making different ones. When we finish something meaningful, we often turn toward the next goal before giving ourselves time to appreciate what has been completed. Even a quiet hour can feel like something we should use productively.
There is nothing wrong with looking forward or beginning again. New possibilities can bring hope, excitement, and purpose. The question is whether we are moving toward something because it feels true or because we are uncomfortable with the space we are standing in. When we rush, we may choose what is familiar instead of allowing ourselves to discover what we actually need now.
I have noticed this tendency in my own life. When space opens, I sometimes feel an urge to make a decision, accept another responsibility, or create a plan simply so I can feel settled again. Yet the quickest answer is not always the most honest one. Sometimes clarity arrives only after I stop trying to force it.
When I allow the space to remain open, even for a little while, I begin to hear what busyness can easily drown out. I can recognize what has truly run its course, rather than trying to recreate it in another form. I can notice whether I am being called toward something new or whether I simply need time to rest, grieve, reflect, or breathe.
This is part of the wisdom of Samhara. Dissolution is not meaningless destruction, nor does it ask us to erase what came before. What has ended may have taught us, supported us, or helped us become who we are. Honoring an ending means allowing it to be complete without demanding that it immediately become the beginning of something else.
The empty spaces in our lives are not always problems waiting to be solved. They can be places of listening, healing, and quiet transformation. Although nothing may appear to be happening, something within us may be settling into a new shape. We may be releasing an old expectation, making peace with a truth, or gathering the courage to choose differently when the time comes.
Perhaps there is an empty space in your own life right now. Instead of asking how quickly you can fill it, consider asking what it might be offering you. What can you hear there? What are you learning about yourself? What becomes possible when you give yourself permission not to know what comes next?
This October, I invite you to explore these questions with us at Ocean Bliss. Come take a class, move and breathe with us, and spend time in a community where you do not need to have everything figured out. Whether you are beginning, returning, or finding your way through an in-between season, there is a place for you here. Website: www.oceanblissyoga.net / Email: oceanblissyogastudio@gmail.com
